International Journal of Home Economics, Hospitality and Allied Research
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E-ISSN: 3027-1819

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Interpersonal Communication Skills and Proactive Stance to Life’s Puzzles among Children: A Review

Bolanle Oyundoyin 1, Udeme Samuel Jacob2,3, Temiloluwa Oyundoyin4, Oluchi Onasanya5
1Department of Home Science and Management, Federal University of Agriculture, Abeokuta, 2240, Abeokuta, Nigeria
2South African Research Chair in Education and Care in Childhood, Faculty of Education,
University of Johannesburg, 2006, Johannesburg, South Africa
3Department of Special Education, University of Ibadan, 5017 G.P.O. Ibadan, Nigeria
4Department of Philosophy, University of Ibadan, 5017 G.P.O. Ibadan, Nigeria
5Department of Early Childhood and Educational Foundations, University of Ibadan, 5017 G.P.O. Ibadan, Nigeria
*Correspondence: Bolanle, Oyundoyin, Department of Home Science and Management, Federal University of Agriculture, Abeokuta, 2240, Abeokuta, Ogun State, Nigeria (Email:


Abstract: This research article dealt with interpersonal communication skills among children and proactive stance to life’s puzzles. A review of related literature was performed to examine interpersonal communication, interpersonal communication skills, interpersonal communication and a proactive stance in conflict resolution, and the development of communication skills in children in a puzzled world. The study noted that children should be allowed and guided appropriately to express themselves clearly and assertively; parents should follow up on their children regularly and should build on teachers' efforts at home. Parents should also allow teachers to do their job of teaching, counselling, and rewarding positively (praise, commend) or negatively (punish) based on the circumstances; teachers should use a child-centered approach in order to make the class lively, interesting, and engaging for children. In addition, they should show empathy and try to be close to the children as much as possible to curb the actions of the loquacious ones and help the shy or withdrawn children to come out of their shells as they prepare for the task ahead in a challenging but essential milieu as they mature and are integrated into the system. The government should implement better incentives and policies to encourage teachers to contribute to the growth and positive development of the child through remuneration and promotion that are timely and in line with their quota.
Keywords: Children, Interpersonal communication, Parents, Proactive Stance Puzzles, Teachers

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Oyundoyin,  B., Jacob, U.S.,  Oyundoyin, T., & Onasanya, O. (2023). Interpersonal Communication Skills and Proactive Stance to Life’s Puzzles among Children: A Review. International Journal of Home Economics, Hospitality and Allied Research, 2(2), 140-148.